Friday, September 10, 2010
Thursday, September 9, 2010
Best Of Both Worlds for who?
So i have been married a little over a month n0w and it has been a rough go for me. I never thought that it would be easy but i also never thought that it would be this hard.
I have some great friends that have been spending alot of their time trying to entertain me and keep me not think about the fact that my husband is not with me. And then there are those that keep telling me that i am living the life. " you have the best of both worlds, your married and you husband lives in another country. i wish i could send my husband to another country"
People say that to me thinking that it is going to make me feel better. but you know...it really doesnt.
My husband is my best friend. I tell him everything. he is the person that i want to see on a regular basis more then anyone in my entire life....even when he makes me mad (which isnt often).
I am not saying that i am never going to get annoyed with him or want him to "go away" But when we have only been married a month and were only together for 2 weeks of that month.....i dont want to be away from him. So instead of people telling me about my future and wanting my husband to "go away", maybe they should not say anything and be sensitive to the fact that i am a newlywed that never really got the chance to start being a wife before i had to leave my husband behind. Think before you say things people.
just a thought
I have some great friends that have been spending alot of their time trying to entertain me and keep me not think about the fact that my husband is not with me. And then there are those that keep telling me that i am living the life. " you have the best of both worlds, your married and you husband lives in another country. i wish i could send my husband to another country"
People say that to me thinking that it is going to make me feel better. but you know...it really doesnt.
My husband is my best friend. I tell him everything. he is the person that i want to see on a regular basis more then anyone in my entire life....even when he makes me mad (which isnt often).
I am not saying that i am never going to get annoyed with him or want him to "go away" But when we have only been married a month and were only together for 2 weeks of that month.....i dont want to be away from him. So instead of people telling me about my future and wanting my husband to "go away", maybe they should not say anything and be sensitive to the fact that i am a newlywed that never really got the chance to start being a wife before i had to leave my husband behind. Think before you say things people.
just a thought
Tuesday, July 27, 2010
Like waiting for santa
I think that the rule should be that once you are packed you should be able to leave.
I was talking to the coolest summer student that i have ever worked with (your welcome christina) and she made the comment that it was like waiting for christmas. the tree is up, the cookies are out......WHERE THE HECK IS SANTA?
And it is so hard to stop doing countdowns because everyone keeps asking me about wedding stuff. I do want to share my info abotu my day because i am sooooooo excited but i almost feel like every time i tell someone about it, it moves farther away.
3 more sleeps as my niece....and my best friend would say......but i want it to be tomorrow
Just A Thought
I was talking to the coolest summer student that i have ever worked with (your welcome christina) and she made the comment that it was like waiting for christmas. the tree is up, the cookies are out......WHERE THE HECK IS SANTA?
And it is so hard to stop doing countdowns because everyone keeps asking me about wedding stuff. I do want to share my info abotu my day because i am sooooooo excited but i almost feel like every time i tell someone about it, it moves farther away.
3 more sleeps as my niece....and my best friend would say......but i want it to be tomorrow
Just A Thought
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
better things to do with $21,000
i have a confession to make......i am obsessed with watching Say Yes To The Dress. I think that i watch at least one episode a day.....at least.
now i understand that there are people out there that have the money to drop in Klienfeld's, but i saw an episode not to long ago that totally blew my mind. this woman spent $21,000 on a (ugly if i may say so ) wedding dress.......FOR HER SECOND WEDDING.
I actually fell out of my chair, i was in that much disbelief. So i decided that i am going to make a list of more important things you can do with $21,000 other then spending it on one dress:
*put a wicked down payment on a house
*I could get a brand new mini cooper
*I could get 700 boxes of diapers at $30
* I could get 11,730 loaves of wonder bread at $1.79 a loaf
* i could get 13,815 large triple triples at Tim Hortons
*i could get 1400 mosquito nets for people in Africa
*I could get 210 goats for a family in Africa
*I could send 840 Canadian children to school with a new backpack full of school supplies
I will be the first to admit to you that i could be more involved in helping my community and other things. But i could never fathom spending $21,000 on a dress for one day when that money could go such a long way towards helping a needy family for a longer time then just one day
Just a Thought
now i understand that there are people out there that have the money to drop in Klienfeld's, but i saw an episode not to long ago that totally blew my mind. this woman spent $21,000 on a (ugly if i may say so ) wedding dress.......FOR HER SECOND WEDDING.
I actually fell out of my chair, i was in that much disbelief. So i decided that i am going to make a list of more important things you can do with $21,000 other then spending it on one dress:
*put a wicked down payment on a house
*I could get a brand new mini cooper
*I could get 700 boxes of diapers at $30
* I could get 11,730 loaves of wonder bread at $1.79 a loaf
* i could get 13,815 large triple triples at Tim Hortons
*i could get 1400 mosquito nets for people in Africa
*I could get 210 goats for a family in Africa
*I could send 840 Canadian children to school with a new backpack full of school supplies
I will be the first to admit to you that i could be more involved in helping my community and other things. But i could never fathom spending $21,000 on a dress for one day when that money could go such a long way towards helping a needy family for a longer time then just one day
Just a Thought
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
Already a good wife
now i dont know when it started happening. but I believe that is was a slow progression and then all of a sudden.....bam my buggy is full of mens clothing and i am calling him from the mens wear department to ask if hwe would like a certain colour...........when does this happen?
i was just in zellers to buy myself some last minute things for myself and by the time i got to the check out i had one tank top for myself and 3 shorts, a wallet, a hoodie and some shoes for antonio. i mean i didnt even plan on buying him anything at all because i have already bought him a bunch of things.....sigh
so what i need to know is...does this stop? will i be able to go into a department store and only buy things for myself again? will i be able to walk past a mens specific store and not feel a gravitational pull to go in and at least look around for things that he may look good in? sigh...my shopping life will never be the same once i become a wife will it?
well at least my husband will be well dressed
Just a Thought
i was just in zellers to buy myself some last minute things for myself and by the time i got to the check out i had one tank top for myself and 3 shorts, a wallet, a hoodie and some shoes for antonio. i mean i didnt even plan on buying him anything at all because i have already bought him a bunch of things.....sigh
so what i need to know is...does this stop? will i be able to go into a department store and only buy things for myself again? will i be able to walk past a mens specific store and not feel a gravitational pull to go in and at least look around for things that he may look good in? sigh...my shopping life will never be the same once i become a wife will it?
well at least my husband will be well dressed
Just a Thought
Monday, July 12, 2010
weird dreams
So those who know me well enough know that i have problems with sleeping. I am always thinking about so many things that i can never shut my brain off. Well of course with a wedding 26 days away (eeek) this issue has become worse.
I am up most nights until one or two in the morning, spend all night in and hout of sleep and then i am up at 7 am. but when i am alseep is when the crazy wedding dreams start happening.
Some of the first dreams started happening when i was in Trinidad in February and Antonio and i were trying to find venue for the wedding. we had search and searched and i was starting to get discouraged, when we stopped in for a quick visit at one of my uncles houses. so he recommended this place that he said would be great and he could get us a discount and all this stuff. Antonio had been there before and said it would be great and everyone would have somewhere to park and it was right in town. so by that point i was like ok well if you like it then fine. but being the woman that i am, as soon as i left my uncle's, i told Antonio that i need to see this place first.
Because is was a sunday the place wasnt open, so we could only see it from out side the fence. I knew my answer as we got closer to the venue but once we got up to the fence my decision was comfirmed. I tried to keep an open mind but.......ya no. but at that time we didnt have any other prospects so i told him that i would sleep on it and let him know
the next morning i called him before he came to meet me and i said to him "babe i love you but i spent all night having nightmares about that place....we cant get married there". i literally had a dream that while we were in there the place caught fire, then there was a serial killer that came in off the street, then we were all locked in and couldnt leave.....and they just kept getting worse. Needless to say i talked him out of that one.
some of the dreams since then have been anything from wonderful , gross, confusing, fabulous, strange.....i could go on and on. i cant wait until the wedding is over and i go back to my regular sleepless nights and my regular crazy dreams
Just a Thought
I am up most nights until one or two in the morning, spend all night in and hout of sleep and then i am up at 7 am. but when i am alseep is when the crazy wedding dreams start happening.
Some of the first dreams started happening when i was in Trinidad in February and Antonio and i were trying to find venue for the wedding. we had search and searched and i was starting to get discouraged, when we stopped in for a quick visit at one of my uncles houses. so he recommended this place that he said would be great and he could get us a discount and all this stuff. Antonio had been there before and said it would be great and everyone would have somewhere to park and it was right in town. so by that point i was like ok well if you like it then fine. but being the woman that i am, as soon as i left my uncle's, i told Antonio that i need to see this place first.
Because is was a sunday the place wasnt open, so we could only see it from out side the fence. I knew my answer as we got closer to the venue but once we got up to the fence my decision was comfirmed. I tried to keep an open mind but.......ya no. but at that time we didnt have any other prospects so i told him that i would sleep on it and let him know
the next morning i called him before he came to meet me and i said to him "babe i love you but i spent all night having nightmares about that place....we cant get married there". i literally had a dream that while we were in there the place caught fire, then there was a serial killer that came in off the street, then we were all locked in and couldnt leave.....and they just kept getting worse. Needless to say i talked him out of that one.
some of the dreams since then have been anything from wonderful , gross, confusing, fabulous, strange.....i could go on and on. i cant wait until the wedding is over and i go back to my regular sleepless nights and my regular crazy dreams
Just a Thought
Saturday, July 10, 2010
the evil green eye
There are some people that you will come across in life that only want to see you fail. they are the kind of people that whenever you have good news they are the first ones to play "devils advocate" and knock you down
I just sucks when it comes from people that are suppose to be like family or really close friends. you always expect these people to forever have your back....but you share good news with them and that eveil green eye comes poking out and all of a sudden your deal with a whole bunch of jealous.
not everyone is suppose to experience all the great things that life is supposed to offer at the same time. so why cant people be happy for others when they get there chance at happiness. I mean of course there are people that are genuinely always happy for you....which is great. there are the people that no matter what news you tell them they are going to say something negative......which you accept. but then there are people that used to be supportive that surprise you all together by becoming negative and you wonder what happened.......jealousy.
so what does one do? you move on and up anyway. because if you let all the people that are jealous of hold you back then you will be stuck on this never ending hamster wheel. sometimes these negative people have to stay as part of your life because they are your "family" but it doesnt mean that you have to stand by and let them spew there negativity on you all the time.
just a thought
I just sucks when it comes from people that are suppose to be like family or really close friends. you always expect these people to forever have your back....but you share good news with them and that eveil green eye comes poking out and all of a sudden your deal with a whole bunch of jealous.
not everyone is suppose to experience all the great things that life is supposed to offer at the same time. so why cant people be happy for others when they get there chance at happiness. I mean of course there are people that are genuinely always happy for you....which is great. there are the people that no matter what news you tell them they are going to say something negative......which you accept. but then there are people that used to be supportive that surprise you all together by becoming negative and you wonder what happened.......jealousy.
so what does one do? you move on and up anyway. because if you let all the people that are jealous of hold you back then you will be stuck on this never ending hamster wheel. sometimes these negative people have to stay as part of your life because they are your "family" but it doesnt mean that you have to stand by and let them spew there negativity on you all the time.
just a thought
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