should i out a cheater

i read an article that was interesting. it is a situation that i has been brought to my attention recently. and wanted to know what others thought

By the time you hit your Saturn Return, the probability that you’ve been on the giving or receiving end of a romantic infidelity is about as high as your credit card debt. But what happens when you’re privy to the less than virtuous activities of a friend or acquaintance’s significant other? The moral conundrum of whether or not to out a cheater is fraught with shoot-the-messenger peril and weighted with Golden Rule considerations. And the potential outcome of ratting out a rat is just as complex and diverse. Should you risk life and limb to unveil the truth or keep your nose out of someone else’s business? Two ladies argue the costs.

HELL YES, TELL HER!
Years ago I lived with my best friend who was a gay guy. He had become friends with a girl he worked with. So the four of us—me, my friend, his friend, and her boyfriend—started to hang out a lot. My friend started to develop a crush on his friend's boyfriend. One night they hung out at the beach alone and messed around. When I confronted him, he finally admitted to me what had happened. I had become friends with the girl by this point. I told my roommate he needed to 'fess up. He didn't. Then I went to the boyfriend: “You tell her or I will.” He didn't. I finally told her what happened. Ultimately it sort of worked out in her favor because she was getting fed up with her boyfriend (he was an alcoholic and had cheated before) and had developed a crush on another guy she worked with. So my telling her freed her to go and explore that. After that, she and I actually became best friends. She said I was the only person in her life who was honest with her. And she appreciated that. The biggest driving force was that it happened in our circle of friends. The four of us kept hanging out and she was the only one who didn't know. And that's not fair. I got to the point where I couldn't not tell her. I knew that I was going to lose at least a few friends over it, maybe all three of them. I didn't want to get involved. But it just came to the point where I had to. In the end, wouldn't you want to know? "Claire McCracken," 26, Kansas City, MO

IT'S NONE OF YO BUSINESS
When confronted with evidence of a friend's boyfriend's cheating, you're, of course, compelled at first to tell her about it, but I've never found that to be a good thing in the end. Depending on how crazy about him she is, she's going to do one of four things: 1) Call you a liar, especially if your evidence is hearsay, and it usually is.2) Break up with him, but ultimately resent you for throwing a monkey wrench in a -- in her mind -- awesome relationship.3) Stay with him anyway, which will make things insanely awkward between the three of you going forward.4) The less frequent dream outcome -- she thanks you profusely, dumps him and listens to your boy-judging wisdom forever and ever. I know the fourth reaction isn't unprecedented, but it has never, ever happened to me. I always get the other ones. It just isn’t worth it, and besides – when someone is frequently cheating you, don't you always kind of know it? You either choose to ignore it or not, and if you're going with the former, you don't want someone else butting in and essentially telling you you're wrong for doing that. Especially not a friend.Anonymous, 25, New York City

Whats in a name

I was scanning through some articles on a website when i came across something interesting. They were describing a woman meeting a man in a book store. Handsome and well spoken and did mention handsome. anyway so they get to talking and she is very interested in each other. the gentleman gives the woman his card and tells her to call him. She waits until he has walked away before looking at the card. Once he is out of view she smiles and glances down. To her Horror his name is Herbert Hymen. That's right Mr. Hymen.

So it got me wondering. If i met a really hot, smart guy that i clicked with but his name was something embarassing like Herbert Hymen, could i over look that? or would it be something that always put a hinder on our relationship? Could you do it? Could you turn a blind eye to Harry Handcock or Ima Snatch?

Just A Thought

WARNING: this one is a little x-rated

ok so i wont lie to any of you reading this i have been kind of thinking about sex alot lately. and i came (hahahahaha sorry not funny) across this article and i thought that it was interesting. so being the good friend i thought i would share.

In the article it talks about what happens when certain animals mate. and it lists the 10 animal behaviours

1. Sure, it’s cute that squids cuddle after they mate, but the female are stuck holding the semen in a pocket next to their mouths. Can you imagine not having the option to spit?

2. Emperor penguins get it on once a year, for two to three minutes, while face down in the snow. I bet even frigid ice queen Martha Stewart gets it on more than that!

3. Female alligators don’t eat for eight to nine weeks before they get it on. And you thought you were nervous about getting naked!

4. After a male bee mates with the queen, his member breaks off and he dies. Well, at least she doesn’t have to wait around to see if he’ll call.

5. Flatworms are hermaphrodites, so they fight to determine which bitch has to carry the baby. In this species, motherhood is for losers. That just ain’t right!

6. Male giraffes nudge the female’s booty until they pee. Then they have to drink the urine to see if they’re ready to mate. If they are, the males just wind up following them around until the girl finally gives in and lets him mount her. Too bad giraffes don’t have alcohol to help them.

7. You thought you didn’t want no minute man, well pity female flippers because male dolphins ejaculate in about 12 seconds.

8. It takes Galapagos tortoises 40 years to go through puberty. Sheesh, I could barely stand 13!

9. Male bedbugs stab females and then shoot them up with sperm. We need to get these girls rape whistles STAT!

10. Gigantic gorillas can weigh over 400 lbs, but their penis is roughly a teeny, tiny inch-and-a-half. Gee, it’s like they’re on steroids…uh-oh A-Rod! rs:

so next time whoever you are with wants to do it like a certain animal....you should research it first to see what you are getting into

just a thought

Lifes little surprises

so you just turn 40 and your kids are grown and ready to leave the nest. and you are excited and planning all the things that you are going to do next year once your kids leave.

and then you get sick......so you go to the doctor to find out what the heck is wrong with you and you know what they find......

A baby.

so just when you thought that you were done and that you where free to do what you want....SURPRISE here is a baby. How do you explain this to your 20 year old kids? and i mean not that 40 is old but you are now going to be running around after a little baby.

lifes little surprises....arent they great

just a thought

women

so what i want to know is, why are women so vicious and mean to other women?

Women should be up lifting other women and inspiring them to do greater things. but instead we spend our time ploting to do horrible things to eachother. Back stabbing. if any one has perfected the art of back stabbing it would be women.

ok so your man cheats on you. i am not saying that the other woman isnt partly responsible but your man was the one that cheated. so dont get all ghetto fab crazy on the woman when maybe she didnt know about you....maybe she did but maybe she didnt.

just a thought

How would you know.

so today i was talking to someone about my current relationship status and the person said something that really bothered me. quickly for those that are unaware i am right now in a long distance relationship. now, this person made a comment, before i could even tell them anything about me and my boyfriend, was like "oh it is never going to work. the love will fade. it will never last because there is no intimacy"

Now what i really wanted to do was punch that person in the face. but i did the smart thing and i asked if they had ever been in a long distance relationship. this is the response i got, "No but i know they dont work" ok so here is my thing. if you dont know anything about a situation. do you think it would not at least be a good idea to get all the facts before you make a judgement about it? people think because they are older they know everything about everything. well you know what, not true. the world is different now and believe it or not, not every relationship revolves around "intimacy".

So people if you want to come across as intellegent, listen to the whole story before you shoot your mouth off about something that you are not familiar with. no matter what it is.

Just a thought

Just a thought REDUX

So a small few of you may know that i used to send out just a thought email. they were sometimes little and sometimes big ideas that i used to have or experiences that i would go through that i would talk about and people would comment and give opinions on.

Recently a friend and i were talking about them and i went back and i found some old ones and i thought that i would bring it back out again.

so lately i have been thinking about standing in my own way. why is it that you know what you want and you know what you have to do to get to it but you let your own fears and what other people think of you stand in the way. so what if you are a big macho dude and you want to watch P.S I love you. just do it. if you know that what you want to do isnt going to hurt yourself or anyone else then do it. if it is going to enhance your life and that of those around you, then do it. what are you all so afraid of?

Just a thought