Trini Style

So if you talk to my best friend she can tell you that even before I met my fiancé I always said that I wanted to get married in Trinidad. So maybe you can call it luck or coincidence that I meet my fiancé in Trinidad so it made my dream that much easier to come to fruition.

The only problem with this decision that I made is that I didn’t take into account the whole Trinidad style thing. So imagine everything that you would plan for your wedding here.....throw it out the window becuz it doesn’t apply to Trinidadians.

One of the first things that my fiancé and i did was sat down and planned our guest list and before we even got started i was told “ you know that no matter what total we come to there are going to be more people than that at our wedding?”. Then next thing i heard when we were talking about our ceremony was “you know that no matter what time the invite says it isn’t going to start at that time, right?”

Every time that i think of an idea i have to think to myself “is this going to work for Trinidadians?” how did this happen? How did i end up planning my wedding becuz Trinis run on island time? Another example, my wedding invitations went out a good 3 months ago. Now it’s bad enough that it took them almost a month to get to my fiancé. But i also had him put the stamps on the response cards and hand deliver them to most of the guests. Yet i am still waiting on a single response card from Trinidad. Not a single one has been returned. This is about the point when my fiancé says to me “you know most people will not respond but they will be coming to the wedding”

Now i am thinking....when i was young i was obviously very naive to dream about getting married in Trinidad. I am about 2 more “babe you know that Trinidadians.....” away from turning into bridezilla and freaking out on everyone. I am almost at the point that i want to say that if i don’t get a response card for you then you aren’t allowed in. I mean that is what they would do here.

So to put my mind at ease, this is what i did. I told my fiancé that on that day, the day of our wedding, he is not to run on island time. He is to be at the ceremony site by no later than 1:15pm. Our ceremony WILL start at 1:30pm and anyone that isn’t there on time. Well they just don’t care enough about us to make it on time. And i have given everyone enough warning. I got my fiancé to tell everyone that must be there that it is actually starting at 1:30pm.

Sigh........so my question to you all is was it naive of me to think that i could pull off an on time wedding in Trinidad and should i develop the island lifestyle as to not drive myself into a straight jacket?

Just a thought